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Ada beberapa zodiak terlahir dengan sisi romantis lebih dari yang lain. Sosok ini tak perlu upaya lebih untuk bisa membuat sesuatu romantis ke pasangannya.

Lalu, pernahkah Anda bertanya-tanya apakah sisi romantis selama ini buatan atau bawaan lahir?  Nah daripada panasaran, lebih baik cek zodiak yang menaungi tanggal lahir Anda termasuk romantis atau bukan.

Pisces

Selalu datang dengan fantasi baru di setiap kencan. Romantisme yang diciptakannya selalu terasa nyata hingga membuat pasangannya selalu kesengsem. Bagi mereka, kencan ideal adalah makan malam berdua di temani temaran lilin dan senandung lagu romantis.

Cancer

Mereka yang berzodiak Cancer, cukup imajinatif dan tidak pernah ragu untuk bekerja ekstra demi menghadirkan kebahagiaan dalam hubungan. Sikap romantisme inilah yang membuat pasangan mereka sulit untuk berpaling.

Virgo

Ketika Virgo jatuh cinta pada seseorang, kehidupan bakal dipenuhi oleh orang yang dicintai. Dia akan ingat momen-momen manis yang sudah dilewati.  Entah itu pada hari pertama bertemu, kencan pertama, menonton film pertama Anda atau memanggang kue bersama, mereka akan mengingat setiap tanggal dan merayakannya.

Sagittarius

Orang Sagittarius jago menghadirkan romansa dalam hal-hal kecil dalam kehidupan. Bisa saja, pemilik zodiak ini akan mengejutkan pasangan dengan mengirimkan sebuket bunga mawar atau pada suatu hari dia akan memasak makanan favorit pasangan untuk membuat bahagia.

Mereka mungkin tidak akan membawa pasangannya kencan indah setiap waktu, tetapi akan berusaha membuat setiap hari istimewa. Bukankah itu amat manis?

Leo

Leo adalah pecinta yang bergairah dan romantis. Pemilik zodiak ini suka memanjakan pasangannya.

Bagi mereka, asmara tidak hanya terbatas pada kencan yang luar biasa. Hal sederhana seperti memberi pijatan lembut usai pasangan melewati hari yang melelahkan akan dia lakukan tanpa perlu diminta. Dia juga bakal sering mengejutkan pasangan dengan hadiah dan menjadi teman baik layaknya sahabat.

Taurus

Mereka akan membisikkan sesuatu yang manis ketika Anda tidak mengharapkannya, berpelukan dan mencium Anda ketika Anda setengah tertidur dan mengadakan pesta ulang tahun kejutan untuk Anda.

Sumber: Liputan6

Sering kali wanita membuat kesalahan saat memulai hubungan cinta dengan seorang pria. Bisa jadi karena khawatir apabila menunggu terlalu lama, mereka tidak akan menemukan pria yang lebih baik.

Tergesa-gesa menjalin hubungan dengan pria yang mengaku mencintai mungkin merupakan kesalahan besar. Sering kali, pria yang dicintai ini hanya berpura-pura saja. Anda baru akan menyadari sifat asli mereka begitu mendekatinya.

Tapi, tenang dulu. Masih ada pria di luar sana yang baik dan akan mencintai Anda dengan tulus sepenuh hati, dan inilah tandanya, seperti dikutip Boldsky.

1. Anda adalah pusat dunianya

Anda harus menunggu seorang pria yang akan menjadikan Anda prioritasnya. Dunianya akan berputar mengelilingi Anda dan Anda akan menjadi pusat dunianya seperti bagaimana dia akan menjadi milik Anda.

2. Dia akan memperlakukan Anda dengan benar

Carilah seorang pria yang tidak akan mengatakan betapa cantiknya Anda tapi betapa baiknya hati Anda. Pria yang benar-benar mencintai akan melihat betapa menakjubkan diri Anda dan akan sangat menghargai Anda.

3. Dia pendengar setia

Dia akan selalu siap mendengarkan, bahkan jika itu tidak berarti apa-apa baginya. Bagi pria yang tepat, semua yang Anda katakan akan terdengar luar biasa. Dia tidak keberatan jika Anda terus-menerus bercerita tentang masalah Anda. Sebaliknya, dia akan menyukai cara Anda mengomelinya.

4. Mencintai Anda apa adanya

Kita semua memiliki rasa tidak aman. Tapi, pria yang tepat tidak akan melihat perasaan itu ada pada diri Anda karena dia mencintai Anda apa adanya.

5. Dia bangga pada Anda

Dia akan bangga dengan apa yang Anda lakukan. Dia akan berada di samping Anda sambil mengucapkan kata-kata penyemangat saat Anda sangat membutuhkannya. Dan saat Anda mencapai sesuatu, dia akan menjadi orang pertama yang bertepuk tangan.

6. Dia merasa beruntung bersama Anda

Dia tak ragu menunjukkan betapa dia mencintai dan peduli pada Anda.

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To help you take your dating profile to the next level and to make sure you start chatting with and meeting more people, there are a few simple things you can do right away that can have a big impact.

Here are 11 online dating profile tips to help you turn your normal dating profile into something amazing:

1. Don’t leave anything blank. 

A big mistake a lot of people make while putting their profile together, is not taking advantage of all the tools they have to show who they are. If the dating site you’re on let’s you create a username, do it. If you can verify your profile using you phone number, Facebook account, or email, do that too. If you can have up to seven photos, then use all seven. Data has shown time and time again, that the more you put into your profile, the more you’ll see back.

Adding a username can get you up to 20% more incoming messages, writing a description about yourself gets you up to 28% more incoming messages, and verifying your photos can get you up to 100% more incoming messages. All of that can really add up.

2. Be honest. People LOVE it. 

When asked what they’re looking for in another person, the number one thing people across the board are looking for is someone who’s honest. When you’re online dating you may be tempted to stretch the truth a bit to present yourself in the best light, but the majority of people prefer honesty and openness instead of someone who tries to be something their not.

“It’s natural to want to be friendly and accepted, but it’s more important to be who you are and not mold yourself into the person that you think your love interest wants.”

3. Don’t hide your face in your profile photo. 

When it comes to choosing your profile photo, people want to see you and get a sense of who you are. Your photos are a part of that, and anything that makes it harder to see your face or tell who you are can be confusing. If you hide behind sunglasses and a hat, use a group photo so people can’t tell which person you are, or use a blurry photo that makes it hard to see you, people may just pass you by.

What people do like are things like adding a full body photo (adding one can get you up to 203% more incoming messages than the average) and seeing your smile (46% of women say a smile is the number one physical feature that draws them to someone). So don’t forget to show off a little!

4. Make it easy for people to talk to you. 

One of the main functions of an online dating profile, is helping people come up with ways to start a conversation with you. Often after you’ve matched with someone, they’ll check out your profile to try and come up with something to say. If you have very little information, or don’t have anything someone could form a question about, they might just be at a loss for words. So here’s a good cheat—give them a question to ask. Do you love books? Add “Ask me what I’m reading” to the end of your profile. Do you love good BBQ? Add something like “Bet you can’t guess my favorite BBQ in town.”

5. Have a mix of photos. 

I know it’s tempting to just choose the five photos you look best in, but if those five photos are all selfies, or are all pictures of you hiking, or are all pictures that look pretty much the same then you aren’t doing yourself justice. Your photos shouldn’t only show how you look, they should show who you are. It’s always good to have one main head-shot, but also use a full body photo followed up by photos of you doing things you enjoy and photos of you in different settings.

After looking into online dating data, here are some types of photos that can actually can help you get more incoming messages:
– People with a full-body photos get 203% more incoming messages

– People with a sports outfit (like a jersey) get 32% more message

– People with an outdoors photo get 19% more messages

– People who have a vacation/travel photo get 6% more messages

6. Don’t write a novel.

Back in the day, online dating profiles read almost like a resume, and you would say everything about yourself as if you were writing a cover letter. But now the dynamics of online dating have changed and writing a short paragraph is enough. Your profile should give an idea of who you are, but not give everything away at once. Give people a reason to message you to learn more.

7. Feel free to talk about your kids. 

A lot of the old dating taboos, like not bringing up your kids too soon, don’t apply when it comes to online dating. People who mention that they have kids in their profile actually get 13% more messages than those without.

8. Add details.

If you want to help someone get a sense of who you are, details are where your profile can really come alive. Instead of saying you love hiking, tell people your favorite hike. Instead of saying you like movies, tell them your favorite movie, or better yet, add one of your favorite movie quotes and see if they can guess where it’s from.

9. Don’t talk about dating.

One thing I’ve noticed a lot of people doing more recently, is talking about dating itself or online dating in their profile—and usually they do it in a negative way. Saying something like, “None of the other dating apps have worked so now I’m here,” or “I hate dating but want to meet someone,” or even, “Not interested in talking back and forth forever before meeting up,” may sound lighthearted when you’re chatting it up with your friends in person, but often comes across as negative when you’re reading a profile.

Instead, focus on what you are looking for or the type of person you’d like to meet. Saying things like “Looking for someone to pick movies out with on Friday nights,” or “I have a dark sense of humor. If you do too, that’d be great,” or even, “I love chatting but am interesting in meeting up too,” can be a lot more inviting.

10. Get a little romantic. 

A dating profile is one of places you can really lay on the charm if you want, so if you’re the type of person who’s into romance don’t be afraid to talk about it. It might seem a bit cheesy to say you’re looking for someone you can watch rainstorms with, but the truth is, a lot of people eat it up.

After looking into online dating data, here are some romantic phrases you can add to your profile to get more incoming messages:

– Mentioning romance or romantic can get you up to 41% more incoming messages.

– Mentioning hopeless romantic can get you up to 38% more incoming messages.

– Mentioning that you’re old-fashioned can get you up to 16% more incoming messages.

11. Be your wonderful, weird self. 

Some of the dating profiles that stand out the most are the ones where someone’s personality and what really makes them different shines through…  and sometimes, well sometimes it can get a little weird. Whether you love grandma sweaters, tell corny dad jokes, or have read ever Harry Potter book over ten times, let people know. The oddball things about you, are what makes you who you are.

When it comes to online dating, it’s all about putting your most authentic self out there and finding the person who’s interested and into you. You never know what’s going to spark someone’s interest and make them say yes to matching up… It could be that photo of you reading “Howl” by a campfire, how you admitted you love Bill Murray movies, the obscure Calvin and Hobbes quote you added, or a photo of you on vacation in Disneyland with your kids. The same types of little, silly things that can catch your eye when you meet someone in person, can get someone’s attention online too. You just have to be yourself and be open to what comes your way. 

Source: The Date Mix by Megan Murray

Are you single and looking for love? Are you finding it hard to meet the right person? When you’re having trouble finding a love connection, it’s all too easy to become discouraged or buy into the destructive myths out there about dating and relationships. Even if you’ve been burned repeatedly or have a poor track record when it comes to dating, these tips can help you to keep things in perspective and put you on the path to finding a loving relationship that lasts.

What’s preventing you from finding love?

Life as a single person offers many rewards, such as being free to pursue your own hobbies and interests, learning how to enjoy your own company, and appreciating the quiet moments of solitude. However, if you’re ready to share your life with someone and want to build a lasting, worthwhile relationship, life as a single person can also be frustrating.
For many of us, our emotional baggage can make finding the right romantic partner a difficult journey. Perhaps you grew up in a household where there was no role model of a solid, healthy relationship and you doubt that such a thing even exists. Or maybe your dating history consists only of brief flings and you don't know how to make a relationship last. You could be attracted to the wrong type of person or keep making the same bad choices over and over, due to an unresolved issue from your past. Or maybe you're not putting yourself in the best environments to meet the right person, or that when you do, you don't feel confident enough. Whatever the case may be, you can overcome your obstacles and find a healthy romantic relationship.

Expectations about dating and finding love

When we start looking for a long-term partner or enter into a romantic relationship, many of us do so with a predetermined set of (often unrealistic) expectations—such as how the person should look and behave, how the relationship should progress, and the roles each partner should fulfill. These expectations may be based on your family history, influence of your peer group, your past experiences, or even ideals portrayed in movies and TV shows. Retaining many of these unrealistic expectations can make any potential partner seem inadequate and any new relationship feel disappointing.

Distinguish between what you want and what you need in a partner. Wants are negotiable, needs are not.
Wants include things like occupation, intellect, and physical attributes such as height, weight, and hair color. Even if certain traits seem crucially important at first, over time you'll often find that you've been needlessly limiting your choices. For example, it may be more important to find someone who is:

- Curious rather than extremely intelligent. Curious people tend to grow smarter over time, while those who are bright may languish intellectually if they lack curiosity.- Sensual rather than sexy.- Caring rather than beautiful or handsome.- A little mysterious rather than glamorous.- Humorous rather than wealthy.- From a family with similar values to yours, rather than someone from a specific ethnic or social background.

Needs are different than wants in that needs are those things that matter to you most, such as values, ambitions, or goals in life. These are probably not the things you can find out about a person by eyeing them on the street, reading their profile on a dating site, or sharing a quick cocktail at a bar before last call.

Dating tip 1: Keep things in perspective

Don’t make your search for a relationship the center of your life. Concentrate on activities you enjoy, your career, health, and relationships with family and friends. When you focus on keeping yourself happy, it will keep your life balanced and make you a more interesting person when you do meet someone special.
Remember that first impressions aren't always reliable, especially when it comes to Internet dating. It always takes time to really get to know a person and you have to experience being with someone in a variety of situations. For example, how well does this person hold up under pressure when things don't go well or when they're tired, frustrated, or hungry?
Be honest about your own flaws and shortcomings. Everyone has flaws, and for a relationship to last, you want someone to love you for the person you are, not the person you’d like to be, or the person they think you should be. Besides, what you consider a flaw may actually be something another person finds quirky and appealing. By shedding all pretense, you’ll encourage the other person to do the same, which can lead to an honest, more fulfilling relationship.

Tip 2: Build a genuine connection

The dating game can be nerve wracking. It’s only natural to worry about how you’ll come across and whether or not your date will like you. But no matter how shy or socially awkward you feel, you can overcome your nerves and self-consciousness and forge a great connection.
Focus outward, not inward. To combat first-date nerves, focus your attention on what your date is saying and doing and what’s going on around you, rather than on your internal thoughts. Being fully present in the moment will help take your mind off worries and insecurities.
Be curious. When you’re truly curious about someone else’s thoughts, feelings, experiences, stories, and opinions, it shows—and they’ll like you for it. You’ll come across as far more attractive and interesting than if you spend your time trying to promote yourself to your date. And if you aren’t genuinely interested in your date, there’s little point in pursuing the relationship further.
Be genuine. Showing interest in others can’t be faked. If you’re just pretending to listen or care, your date will pick up on it. No one likes to be manipulated or placated. Rather than helping you connect and make a good impression, your efforts will most likely backfire. If you aren’t genuinely interested in your date, there is little point in pursuing the relationship further.
Pay attention. Make an effort to truly listen to the other person. By paying close attention to what they say, do, and how they interact, you’ll quickly get to know them. Little things go a long way, such as remembering someone’s preferences, the stories they’ve told you, and what’s going on in their life.
Put your smartphone away.You can’t truly pay attention or forge a genuine connection when you’re multitasking. Nonverbal communication—subtle gestures, expressions, and other visual cues—tell us a lot about another person, but they’re easy to miss unless you’re tuned in.

Tip 3: Put a priority on having fun

Online dating, singles events, and matchmaking services like speed dating are enjoyable for some people, but for others they can feel more like high-pressure job interviews. And whatever dating experts might tell you, there is a big difference between finding the right career and finding lasting love.
Instead of scouring dating sites or hanging out in pick-up bars, think of your time as a single person as a great opportunity to expand your social circle and participate in new events. Make your focus having fun. By pursuing activities you enjoy and putting yourself in new environments, you'll meet new people who share similar interests and values. Even if you don’t find someone special, you will still have enjoyed yourself and maybe forged new friendships as well.

Tip 4: Handle rejection gracefully

At some point, everyone looking for love is going to have to deal with rejection—both as the person being rejected and the person doing the rejecting. It’s an inevitable part of dating, and never fatal. By staying positive and being honest with yourself and others, handling rejection can be far less intimidating.
By staying positive and being honest with yourself and others, handling rejection can be far less intimidating. The key is to accept that rejection is an inevitable part of dating but to not spend too much time worrying about it. It’s never fatal.

Don’t take it personally. If you’re rejected after one or a few dates, the other person is likely only rejecting you for superficial reasons you have no control over—some people just prefer blondes to brunettes, chatty people to quiet ones—or because they are unable to overcome their own issues. Be grateful for early rejections—it can spare you much more pain down the road.
Don’t dwell on it, but learn from the experience. Don’t beat yourself up over any mistakes you think you made. If it happens repeatedly, though, take some time to reflect on how you relate to others, and any problems you need to work on. Then let it go. By dealing with rejection in a healthy way it can increase your strength and resilience.
Acknowledge your feelings. It’s normal to feel a little hurt, resentful, disappointed, or even sad when faced with rejection. It's important to acknowledge your feelings without trying to suppress them. Practicing mindfulness can help you stay in touch with your feelings and quickly move on from negative experiences.

Tip 5: Watch for relationship red flags

Red-flag behaviors can indicate that a relationship is not going to lead to healthy, lasting love. Trust your instincts and pay close attention to how the other person makes you feel. If you tend to feel insecure, ashamed, or undervalued, it may be time to reconsider the relationship.
Common relationship red flags:
The relationship is alcohol dependent. You only communicate well—laugh, talk, make love—when one or both of you are under the influence of alcohol or other substances.
There’s trouble making a commitment. For some people commitment is much more difficult than others. It's harder for them to trust others or to understand the benefits of a long-term relationship because of previous experiences or an unstable home life growing up.
Nonverbal communication is off. Instead of wanting to connect with you, the other person’s attention is on other things like their phone or the TV.
Jealousy about outside interests. One partner doesn’t like the other spending time with friends and family members outside the relationship.
Controlling behavior. There is a desire on the part of one person to control the other, stop them from having independent thoughts and feelings.
The relationship is exclusively sexual. There is no interest in the other person other than a physical interest. A meaningful and fulfilling relationship depends on more than just good sex.
No one-on-one time. One partner only wants to be with the other as part of a group of people. If there’s no desire to spend quality time alone with you, outside of the bedroom, it can signify a greater issue.

Tip 6: Deal with trust issues

Mutual trust is a cornerstone of any close personal relationship. Trust doesn’t happen overnight; it develops over time as your connection with another person deepens. However, if you're someone with trust issues—someone who's been betrayed, traumatized, or abused in the past, or someone with an insecure attachment bond—then you may find it impossible to trust others and find lasting love.
If you have trust issues, your romantic relationships will be dominated by fear—fear of being betrayed by the other person, fear of being let down, or fear of feeling vulnerable. But it is possible to learn to trust others. By working with the right therapist or group therapy setting, you can identify the source of your mistrust and explore ways to build richer, more fulfilling relationships.

Tip 7: Nurture your budding relationship

Finding the right person is just the beginning of the journey, not the destination. In order to move from casual dating to a committed, loving relationship, you need to nurture that new connection.
To nurture your relationship:
Invest in it. No relationship will run smoothly without regular attention, but the more you invest in each other, the more you’ll grow. Find things you enjoy doing together and commit to spending the time to do them, even when you’re busy or stressed.
Communicate openly. Your partner is not a mind reader, so tell them how you feel. When you both feel comfortable expressing your needs, fears, and desires, the bond between you will become stronger and deeper.
Resolve conflict by fighting fair. No matter how you approach the differences in your relationship, the important thing is that you aren't fearful of conflict. You need to feel safe to express the things that bother you and to be able to resolve conflict without humiliation, degradation, or insisting on being right.
Be open to change. All relationships change over time. What you want from a relationship at the beginning may be very different from what you and your partner want a few months or years down the road. Accepting change in a healthy relationship should not only make you happier, but also make you a better person: kinder, more empathic, and more generous.

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